People connect with each other in different ways, but it’s universally agreed, that we all need emotional connection. Couples also need a bond of trust with each other--that sense that they can give one another the benefit of the doubt. It means that you know that your partner will be there for you if you need them. It’s knowing that your person will give you support, and that you will feel comforted by them. The security that you get from knowing that you have someone in your corner impacts your physical health, and your mental health.
When you want this connection with your loved one, but you can’t get it, it affects you deeply. Some people panic, some people feel isolated and others get upset. It’s this threat, this emotional disconnection that underlies the fights we have, that’s under the distance we feel.
As you consider this connection and disconnection, please complete this exercise link here:
Consider what attracted you to your partner.
List five strengths in your relationship.
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Originally written by Kathryn de Bruin, LMFT and adapted for this blog.
Kimberly Sandstrom, LMFT is a Couple's Relationship Therapist and Relationship Educator in San Diego, CA. Read more about her work here: kimberlysandstrom.com